Sunday, August 1, 2010

Just Fine

I wrote the previous post Friday night, minutes before I.T. called down the stairs to the computer nook, where I sat staring at my bleeding hearts background, gulping wine and pounding away on the keyboard,

"Hey Heidi, let's go out to Marie's for dinner!" He's always trying to pep me up. Trying to find the other Heidi, who doesn't mope around waiting for August 27 to arrive.


Marie Catrib's is my favorite. The people who work at Marie's are the most easygoing, free spirited folks serving food anywhere in the city. The server usually just takes a seat with you at the table and goes over the specials like an old friend you invited to your place for Sunday dinner. Here salads have names like "Mother Earth" and "The Fatouch". Their gluten-free, chocolate pudding is so dense it holds your spoon vertical while you sip coffee between bites. The best. I would never turn down an invitation to Marie's.


During dinner we talked. I.T. joked around and made me smile. After dinner we drove around Reeds Lake and then read a book together on a blanket in a park beside the lake. We're still reading through What Did You Expect by Paul David Tripp- savoring the well seasoned advice about how to nourish relationships. Some of the parts made us laugh. And that felt great. We talked about what the book was saying to us. And it was fun. And it was comfortable being there in the park with I.T., the love of my life- my best friend.

It was movie night in the park. Event planners had erected an enormous blow up movie screen at one end and were handing out free glow necklaces, frisbees and t-shirts. Pre-movie activities also included the local bank selling 50 cent ice creams and such out of their carnival cart, while Irish dancers tapped up a storm on a makeshift fold-out stage. So focusing on the reading became impossible. But we enjoyed soaking in the scene of happy kids and parents relaxing on blankets.

We stayed to see the first Jackie Chan stunt from The Spy Next Door, then drove home, picked up the movie from a Redbox and watched the rest from the comfort of our own living room in our pj's.

We were home alone. Like we're going to be every night from August 27th on. And we were having fun. We were enjoying being together. And for the first time in a long time I believed that things really are going to be just fine.



Heidi

9 comments:

Kelly said...

What a beautiful tribute to your marriage. I just loved this post! SO MUCH! Every word, Heidi.

I pray you will continue to grow together and lean on each other, and read books together!!!

By the way, I just saw the Jackie Chan movie with my kids. They loved it.

KrippledWarrior said...

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shark week is on dvd.

Jientje said...

I loved reading this post. Looks like you had a wonderful time together.

Karen Hossink said...

OK, I just did some catch-up reading. Wanted to get the background to this post. (And then I couldn't stop reading...Your RIFF RAFF thing looked wonderful! *grin*)
I am so encouraged by this recollection of your evening with I.T. What a blessing it was - for fun in the moment, and the hope of what is yet to come.
"And for the first time in a long time I believed that things really are going to be just fine." Yes, I believe you're right!

Warren Baldwin said...

Nice evening. Cheryl and I are enjoying more of those (but not this summer, actually. Too busy!). I'd like to hear more about this book. Have you done a blog post about it? Will you?

Mary DY said...

They will. You can trust me on this one, H. Have I ever steered you wrong? Hugs, M

Kim said...

Even after our last one left home we still had the other associate pastor living with us and the youth in our church coming in and out at will so it wasn't like we were suddenly all alone.

That didn't happen until we moved overseas. While I was struggling with cultural adaptation, starting to learn Spanish, and entering perimenopause to boot. Not a fun year. Actually not a fun two years. But things are looking up.

Every season of life has its ups and downs. I equate it with the tide going in and out. Sometimes I felt overwhelmed by sadness and other times it would ebb and I'd be fine. It just took time to adjust. As our pastor back home often said, "Time is your friend." And you're right... things really are going to be just fine.

This online community has been a lifeline. Women I've never even met encourage me, make me laugh, give me virtual hugs... it's one of God's special gifts.

So here's a virtual hug :)

Joyce said...

And they will be fine. There will still be moments but there is much to love in this season too. I just saw my girls during a quick two day stop in the town where they live. I always feel so sad when i get back on that airplane and I also maybe feel quite sorry for myself about the fact that I have to live so far away. But we got home and picked up the dog from the kennel and then unpacked and we ordered Chinese food and all is really and truly fine. Better than fine most days : )

Michele Mayer said...

Hi Heidi!

I'm catching up on your writing after reading on ESI that you're reading my ABSOLUTE FAVORITE Christian Author, Paul Tripp, and was sooo encouraged to read this post of your wonderful date with Hubby. It's been a rough season for you, I know, but God is so faithful!! My prayers for you and I.T. are for innumerable more dinner's at Maria's and great talks in the park, pajama party movie nights and whatever else trips your triggers. What a blessing to be married to your best friend...